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Kelly Gunther • July 7, 2020
The new beginning!
Welcome to my first blog.
Where I am not sure where to even begin or to even know what to say at the beginning of this, so here goes nothin!
This being my first one and me just being who I am. I want to be real & open and always show my true self, because I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t or wasn’t. I’m excited I am writing this as my first one as I have been all over the place
with just ups, downs, and well just all over. I had explained in one of my posts that I did on my social media that I wasn’t believing in myself anymore and I really wasn’t sure who I even was, it wasn’t me, and I knew it wasn’t me.
I wanted to find ‘Kelly.’ Where was the girl I knew? The girl, who never gave up and always pushed herself no matter what, especially when others might have told me that I was crazy for doing and going after what I wanted.
I had lost all of the hope that I did have. As I want to be just an ‘open book’ and share my life experiences & help as many as I can, to hopefully helping maybe help you! We never know what
someone could be going through. I’ve learned a lot about myself these past few weeks and months. I’ve learned to never ‘judge’ a book by its cover, but to look into the pages & maybe hear what they have to say. What’s their story? I’ve
learned that love could be blind and you could be left with so many unknowns about yourself. Let me tell you, it's never YOU, I don’t ever want you to think it's you, even if you don’t have answers or the ones you wanted. I’m here to say as
hard as it is to pick yourself back up again and keep going, you have too. I know it's hard, trust me. I just cried a lot about it and thought it was me and that I wasn’t ever going to be good enough. It's just the total opposite, you are going to
be good enough for someone! Love does some crazy things where it can pick you up and throw you around, even with the unknown being so unknown. I truly believe its all lessons to be learned, I can totally say that now
that it has been some time. I don’t want you to think I just woke up and I was this strong. No, I was the girl who thought of everything single thought that could pass my mind and figure it out as if I was God. I’m not ever going to be God nor even
think I could be him trying to figure it out. I’m here to tell you that maybe we have to keep loving ourselves first, I don’t know what you might be going through, but the lesson for me was, maybe I need to keep working on me through the
inside out. Maybe I need to always believe in myself, no matter what it is. We are all a learning process, we want the answers right then and there. Especially people who have trouble waiting and trusting, this is me raising my hand up to
the sky as high as I can. I’ll be the first to tell you it's hard to have the trusting & waiting because we’d just like to know the simple answers, right? But the catch is, it's telling us to keep believing in ourselves and finding who we are. In the end we will look back and see the process we made along the way. Somewhere, somehow it all makes sense! Just never always in the moment.
After being knocked down it normally is the hardest time to get back up, but yet the strongest time to pull yourself together! I say that to you, not that it is always easy to turn yourself around the next day, week, months or even years, but when you keep working on you, and finding yourself, you become who you want to become. You find your inner strength and you rely on that. You rely on it cause you are strong even when you don’t think you are, even if you have to be the strongest person you can for 30 seconds, you can be! I promise you!
We have the power within us to be as strong as we can & want to be. We find our inner voice and listen to it! I, for myself, wasn’t sure where my inner voice was, but listening to the other shoulder of the wrong voice. Not the little girl inside that I always knew.
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Let that sink in for a bit as you read it. You might be wondering what that even means. Spiritual friendship isn’t something you just come across or even recognize right off the bat (at least for me, it wasn’t). It’s a friend, or group of friends, who lead and point you to God. I never knew what it truly was until I joined my church and was introduced to small groups. My small group was a group of women who met every Thursday. We’d do a Bible study together then discuss what we’d learned on the topic of what we were following and diving into. I really started to feel not only what “spiritual friendship” was but more of even the meaning of “true friends.” Before I made these spiritual friendships, I’d never been around a group of women that would pray together and talk vulnerably to help one another with the best advice they could. As it was then handed to God we knew & trusted that He would always point us in the direction of where it was going to lead us. Friendships are very important and always have an important meaning behind them, as every friend you have is - different from one another. That is what is so special about friendships and having so many different ones. Each one is unique and special to you. I just want you to know, I’m not here to tell you how to be a good friend or even be a Spiritual Friend, just want to give my meaning of friendships of my own. As they are very important to me, as it's where good friends become your family as well as lifting one another up. Friends are how you get to pick who you want to be in your circle to do life with. They understand everything that you are going through and will always be there for you, no matter what. The little catch is… You yourself have to be a good friend also. This starts just within you! If you aren’t a good friend to yourself, you can’t be a good friend to anyone else. you have to love yourself to be able to give yourself to others. What you put into you is just as important as what you give out to your friendships. If you aren’t happy with yourself, you won’t be happy with others. To know who you truly are, you have to fully dig within yourself. There are a few pieces. Confidence within you, believe in yourself, love yourself for who you are, and most importantly, stand up for who you are! If you are confident with who you are, you’ll be able to attract confidence in friendships. You want the ones who lift one another up. I love seeing my friends grow in who they are and chase the dream they want. You want to see them succeed, be happy for them, and cheer them along the way. Cause hey! Not everyone is always “perfect” or on their best game for that day. When you need a little belief or whatever it may be, your friends are able to help lift you up and remind you who you are! It's a hard world out there and even a cruel one. Why be so cruel to one another, when you can lift and help one another out? As you succeed, so do your friends. It’s a huge momentum circle where one feeds off another, to then lead into another. The more momentum you have, the more you grow stronger as a bond and always help each other out. Friendships are always for seasons of life. they are put into certain parts of your life, for when you might need that exact friend to be able to help you. Each one has its own story to be able to grow with you. “Friendship is the greatest of worldly goods. Certainly, to me it is the chief happiness of life. If I had to give a piece of advice to a young man about a place to live, I think I should say, ‘Sacrifice almost everything to live where you can be near your friends.’” C.S. Lewis Love that quote! I hope you can understand how important friendships are, what they stand for, and who they are. Without friendships, you won’t have much. As friendships really are the greatest of worldly goods! Says C.S. Lewis. Also along with C.S. Lewis, I couldn’t agree more, “to me it is the chief of happiness of life’ As it is! Love your friends, as you love yourself At the same time, the more you love your friends, the more you love yourself and are able to love them even more! Be who you are and give what you have! Love one another as God has loved you! Be the friend who you want to have.New Paragraph
Why hello again! I feel it's been a little bit since I’ve posted a blog or even gotten to write. So here we are. I write or post my blogs on what I feel inspires me that week or if something fun & exciting happens. So they might be all over the place & I apologize for that, but that is also just who I am. All over the place! With that being said, let's just dive into it. Have you ever felt you couldn’t make the choice to just say “yes” and go after what you want? There might be a few of us. It’s never easy, just to make the choice to say “yes” it comes with a lot of feelings behind it. Fear, anxiety, not thinking positive, just being scared, scared of the outcome, I mean there’s a lot that could be stopping you. The catch is.. WHAT IF YOU CHOSE TO SAY “YES” I’m not saying there isn’t going to be a lot of work behind it and scary, don’t get me wrong. It is scary, but there’s always the other hand. The hand of choice that you, yourself get to pick. You get to say “yes” even if it's scary in the middle of the storm. If you are going to be brave enough(which I know you are) to say “yes to the choice” you must also have the courage to stick to your vision because it will be tested. That I can promise you myself. Now that I’ve entered the new chapter of a season of life it hasn’t been easy. I won't lie to you. It hasn’t been butterflies & rainbows. Probably because if it was, it wouldn’t be worth it. With every challenge comes a storm. You just have to know you will be tested. That you are stronger than what you think, because of you. Yourself knows the outcome you want. You don’t stop until you get there. The work has been & be will cut out for you, but how are you going to keep working towards what you want? I’m here to say that because you have a choice to say “yes” you have the steps to move you forward, you have a choice to use what you’ve been gifted. It’s a gift you’ve been given. Especially when it's something you want to go after. When others might be questioning you, or you yourself even might be. Know you are strong enough within yourself because you said “yes!” Nobody else did or did it for you, but YOU! You said it for yourself to set your goals & dreams out to whatever they are. Don’t care what others think. This is what you get to pick for yourself. When you might be having those hard days, or questioning yourself because you will have those. It's something that just comes along with it. Know that it is completely normal to have those bad days because that is what makes your YES even stronger. You’ve committed to yourself. You owe yourself everything! Always be proud of what you are going after! I’m proud of you for saying “YES” even when it's so scary & you aren’t sure of the outcome. Write YES on a mirror you see every day or even something you see that can remind you, of what you are going after. Some of the littlest words are yet so strongly. I'm so excited for you to move forward & keep one foot in front of the other. YES! YES! YES! Go say “YES!”